BEADS OF JOY 04-13-19
“Lent – Day 34”
©2019 James Dacey, Jr. OFS
“Love Shared is Love Gained”
Lenten Season – Day 34
My Friends,
Today I am putting a little
different twist on the blog. I have future plans for a series like this, but
last night for whatever reason; I was thinking about my grandparents. So today
I'd like to touch on the love they shared, the knowledge I gained and where so
much of who I am is from them. Just to let you know, this is my mother's mom
and dad. My grandma passed away many years ago, it crushed me, I loved her so
much. All the cousins asked me to do the eulogy, omg; I cried and cried, that
was so hard to do. And my grandpa, you all know him, his photos are in my
album, he just passed away years ago also. These two people played such a
dynamic role in my life, I don't know if they did all they did consciously; or
it was just in their genes to be the way they were. One big thing I have
learned is never think your role as a parent, or a grandparent or a friend or a
sibling or whatever is not important, because it is. And I think the greatest
wisdom I gained is that "knowing"
that you know it is important allows you to "do it right" for everyone. You know what I mean. If your head
is screwed on straight and you know your words will hurt or help, you'll always
do the right thing. I miss my grandma and my grandpa.
Well, let me welcome everyone
into my world again. It's not all that crowded, open all the doors, there's
room. OK. I'll speak up so everybody can hear me. LOL, I'm crazy I know it. Let
me tell you, I grew up in the school of ole ways. Family was everything,
literally. Every single weekend growing up, if we weren't camping or traveling,
we were at my grandparents’ house, my cousins, my aunt and uncles, you name it,
we spent major time together growing up. I so miss them days, and all those
wonderful people. Well my mom's parents’ house was common place for me. Gramps
use to take me fishing and we'd go on the ham radio and me and grams use to
chat and chat and chat and cook and she was the best. She introduced me to Our
Lady when I was really young (my eyes are
filling with tears as I type). She knew she just knew that I needed
our Blessed Mother and Her Son in my life. She planted many precious seeds in
my heart through the years, many that would grow for eternity. Please all you
grandmas and grandpa's out there. PLEASE share our Lady with all your young
grand kids. And do it in a private super special way, one that would be
engraved in their hearts for future reference and future wonderful memories.
Omg my heart fills with tears of sorrow and joy, grandma always told me how
special Our Lady was to her. I think of that so often to this day.
My grandma used to have this HUGE
Blessed Mother statue on her dresser, there was always prayer cards and
rosaries and I remember even many dried out roses. I really remember that
statue. She would always touch it as she walked by it. In detail I remember one
of the earliest conversations, I have shared this before. She and I were in the
living room, she called me over to her, and she was holding her rosary beads.
She huddled me next to her, she was such a special loving grandma. I miss her
so much. I wish my kids knew her. Back to the story: She brought me close to
her, and asked me, "Do you know
who the two most special women in my life are?" I don't
remember answering, but I remember just looking into her eyes. She said, "my little sister Helen, and our Blessed
Mother." I didn't know what to say. She then showed me her
rosary beads, she told me she always prayed her rosary and talked to our Lady.
I remember enough at the time, that I honestly didn't know exactly what she
meant about all that stuff. I was an altar boy back then, but we weren't at
that time a really religious family in any way. But grandma knew just knew she
had to plant the seeds. At her funeral I noticed she wasn't holding her rosary
beads. I cried so much, I put mine in her hands. I remember saying, "she has to have her rosary beads when she
sees our lady." Please grandma's we need more grandmas like
mine out there, and I know many of you are... THANK YOU. That part of her is so
engraved in who I am today. She loved our Lady so much, like I do. It's
incredible.
Now let me tell you about my
Grandpa. He is so cool; I love this guy. In the Navy he was a boxer, so he was
tough, but incredibly loving. He worked for over 40 years at P&G as a
welder. I am so proud of him. He is super smart his whole life, even into his
90’s, when it comes to any kind of math. He even challenged my Charlie (my youngest), 2 weeks before he died.
And growing up every one of us grandkids knew our multiplication and division
by heart, if we didn't know it when asked; we had us write it out ten times
while we were visiting... I know; omg. But I got to tell you, when us cousins
talk about the olden days and we look back and see that as a fond memory,
really, we do. Grandpa wanted all of us to be good in math, he always said, we
need to know it in everything we do, because math is at work and at home in
everything. He was right, just think about it. I miss the days I used to spend
time with him. We used to go fishing ALOT! Grandpa use to treat me to breakfast
before we went fishing. We'd talk about what we were going to do; and school
and that I would be going to college. Right. LOL. He'd tell me all the rules so
I wouldn't get hurt or lost in the dark by the beach. Once we got to the beach,
he'd help me with the "waiters"
that's the long boots/pants you wear so we can walk far into the water and
fish, they were so cool, he always had a pair my size. I really miss him now.
When I was over the road driving a
tractor-trailer for a year, every couple weeks I’d send him a “fishing” postcard from whatever
state I was in and I’d write, “I love you
so much.”, “I miss you
with all my heart.”, “I am so
proud you are my grandpa.” He and I talked on the phone every once
in a while, when I was out there, he told me, he loved all the postcards, and
he even put them up on the wall... That is so cool!!
My goal here today is that you
are thinking of your own wonderful memories, or the wonderful memories you'd
like to give your grand kids and your kids or your nieces and nephews.
Sometimes just sharing one’s own love for their own family, allows others to
gain from it, as well as I do. Please take this message, capture it in your
heart, and share its core (LOVE)
with everybody. Engrave your love for them into their hearts. It'll last for
eternity; I promise you it will.
Today's Challenge: To be that
loving parent, grandparent, sister, brother, friend. And always be that person
to everybody. Build memories with LOVE. Live the life of J.O.Y. more fully:
Jesus – First / Others – Second / You – Last ...
Grandparents Song - I
Learned to Love
LOVE YOU GUYS !!!!
Your brother in Christ Jesus
And His Most Blessed Mother,
Jim (The Rosary Man) Dacey Jr OFS
Today is Saturday: We pray the Joyful Mysteries:
The Joyful Mysteries
1. The Annunciation (Humility) – Luke 1:26-28
2. The Visitation (Love of Neighbor) – Luke 1:39-45
3. The Birth of Jesus (Poverty of Spirit) – Luke 2:1-20
4. The Presentation (Purity of Mind & Spirit) – Luke 2:22-38
5. Finding in The Temple (Obedience) –Luke 2:41-50
I simply love Saturday mornings, because Saturday like every other day of the week -begins with the Rosary.
Your brother in Christ Jesus
And His Most Blessed Mother,
Jim (The Rosary Man) Dacey Jr OFS
Today is Saturday: We pray the Joyful Mysteries:
The Joyful Mysteries
1. The Annunciation (Humility) – Luke 1:26-28
2. The Visitation (Love of Neighbor) – Luke 1:39-45
3. The Birth of Jesus (Poverty of Spirit) – Luke 2:1-20
4. The Presentation (Purity of Mind & Spirit) – Luke 2:22-38
5. Finding in The Temple (Obedience) –Luke 2:41-50
I simply love Saturday mornings, because Saturday like every other day of the week -begins with the Rosary.
Rosary Man Jim’s Joyful Reflection: http://beads-of-joy-blog.blogspot.com/2014/02/the-joyful-mysteries_10.html
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