Friday, August 12, 2016

God Has Joined Together

BEADS OF JOY 08-12-16
“God Has Joined Together”
©2016 James Dacey, Jr. OFS

My Friends,

 Today’s Gospel: Matt 19:3-12 (God Has Joined Together)
“And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?" He answered, "Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, `For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." They said to him, "Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" He said to them, "For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery." The disciples said to him, "If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is not expedient to marry." But he said to them, "Not all men can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to receive this, let him receive it."


Always a tough topic to discuss in today’s time, without a doubt. So, I am not going to write any sort of reflection of judgement using scripture, I have no right to. Instead I will reflect upon my own challenges and my own life. Some of you know me, some of you don’t. LOL! I laugh because that can be good and that can be bad. But in the same token it really doesn’t matter; because this is my story and with saying all that I can’t be placed in judgement. Everyone’s story is “their own” story. Their Life’s Reflection. Here’s my reflection of 30 years…

Back on October 24, 1986 Chrissy and I eloped… Oh Yes, we did. Then we raced out to Atlantic City, NJ for our weekend get-away. Oh well so much for a fancy honeymoon. But that’s ok, we weren’t into that kind of glamour stuff anyway. We are simple kind of “county folks” even though we were born and raised in NYC. Go figure! Any-hoot! We did eventually have our “Church” wedding on May 2, 1987. Chrissy had to become a Catholic, she was Episcopalian; Mother Eugenia gave Chrissy personal RCIA lessons at Our Mother’s Consolation Convent. So on Easter Sunrise Mass 1987 Chrissy became a Catholic receiving all her sacraments on the convents grounds. The picture below is at the convent in their chapel where we “retook” our vows so all our friends there could see us who couldn’t make it to the church. 

Well I guess the big question is: How have you guys survived after 30 years? I’d be lying if I said it was a piece of cake. Well, with 5 kids, moving several times (to different states), experiencing financial and health set-backs several times throughout the 30 years; we have indeed had our share of major challenges. I even moved out for a couple months; what can I say. We have been through the mill, as they say. Now with both of us in the disabled state of our lives; well we just take it day by day for now. Will we last the duration? I guess we’ll have to see. We take it one day at time. Some days Chrissy has had enough of me and she wants me out; and in all fairness there are days I want to be gone out of here for good. But after 30 years I guess any couple could come to those conclusions.

My 30 Years of Wisdom:
  1. Always seek to be a Peacemaker.
  2. Have a $0.00 hobby that consumes you. (writing, art, etc.)
  3. Cook and clean at meal time together don’t use a dishwasher (we have a dishwasher, but we don't use it).
  4. Food shop together, learn each others likes and dislikes.
  5. Focus on the kids together making them the priority.
  6. Never ever scream or fight EVER.
  7. Never say something you know you will regret.
  8. Take one day at a time in good and bad times.

That's all for now.


Your brother in Christ Jesus 
And His Most Blessed Mother,
Jim (The Rosary Man) Dacey Jr OFS