Beads of Joy 09-10-10
Secrets To A Successful Marriage©2010 James Dacey, Jr. SFO
Thought it be fun to collect comments of wisdom from couples who are married for a long time. In today's day and age double digit time is rare and getting even more rare as the years pass. Please send me your bits of wisdom, so they can be added to this wonderful list.
John and Lucile Phelan (62 years)
Choosing the right Mate - one that you Love and Respect, who is truthful, kind and understanding. You should communicate daily and you will be the best of friends.
Mildred and Herschel Weaver (53 years)
1. Be sure you trust each other.
2. Be a good listener.
3. Be compassionate when necessary.
4. Give in on "equal measure" to one another
5. Above all - love each other.
6. Pray together and God will be there for you.
7. Having a sense of humor in life helps enormously.
Richard and Joanne Munly (50 years)
By having the same as well as different interests, an absolute trust in each other, and by always keeping busy.
Gene and Hilde Newberry (50 years)
Pray together and play together; don’t forget to cultivate your sense of humor!
John and Sylvia Teem (45 years)
Make good friends with each other! Constantly remind this friend how much he/she means to you. Use good humor, and a friendly tone of voice. Love each other!
Val and Donna Zadnik (40 years)
John and I have been together 38 years. Now for us I would have to say, lots of patience, plenty of love, forgiveness in abundance and the Most important one always keep God in your married life. With God all things are possible until death do us part.
John and Bernadette Walker (38 Years)
We found a news clipping in the back of Milt's parents bible. It was a letter written to a news columnist. His parents had been married for over 50 years and must have thought it important to pass on to us:
I look forward to your marriage and lovingly pass on this advice to you:
"Look not for perfection in your mate. You will not find it and it's just as well. Living with a saint can be very tiresome."
"Let your love be stronger than your hate or anger."
"Learn the wisdom of compromise for it is better to bend a little than to break."
"Believe the best rather than the worst. People have a way of living up--or down-- to your opinion of them.
"Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. The person you choose to marry is deserving of the courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends."
Please hand this letter down to your children and your children's children. The more things change, the more they are the same.
Grandmother Jayne Well, Baltimore,MD May 2, 1886
Milt and Eleanor Werthmann (36 years)
What is the secret to making a marriage last so long?
-No magic potion the first couple months. Real love takes time.
-Many years together.. (love develops and deepens through the years.)
-Many awesome nights (there I said it, kids didn't just appear, lol - kids were never ever an excuse for us not to have our special time together. The kids had bedtimes and their own bedrooms. We are crazy about each other. We wanted time together, often.)
-Many difficult moments, and getting through it together. (anything that was a challenge for us, was usually the kids, the house, the car, we remained in love through it all to get through it all.)
-Many many many diapers changed. (5 kids, yes I helped)
-Many many hugs and kisses. (lots of fun indeed)
-Many countless hours of laughter, laughing till you cried.
-Many many years of shared smiles.
-Many years of dealing with each others quirks.. (w/love)
-KEY WORD.. (much patience, love, forgiveness always)
Jimmy and Chrissy Dacey Jr (24 Years)
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Your brother in Christ Jesus & His Most Blessed Mother,
Jim (The Rosary Man) Dacey Jr SFO